The desire of every young person is to find the missing bone! They want a sincere and peaceful home. They pray for it. They work for it. However, most young couple never had the experience because they missed the most important foundational aspects of the relationship- friendship.
I said to a group of young people during a programme to court and marry their friends. They were confused. How can I marry my friend? Marrying my friend may make us too familiar with each other now. What will people say then? Then I asked, would you rather marry a stranger or your enemy? No one has ever marry a total stranger in the Bible. They were related one way or the other. In the same vein, friendship will “relate” you before the final decision is made. This friendship may not take too many years. It may be brief. But during this period, you relate well with each other. You relate freely. you laughed together without any reservation. You correct and affirm each other without any string attached. Your friend will display his/her true character. You will discuss your expectations from your would be partner. Therein you are exchanging some facts spontaneously with each other. These exchange of facts will be helpful in future. All of these happen while enjoying the dynamics of having fun in pressure-free relationship. It is a winning period. They get all benefits of good friendship. From good friendship evolves a good relationship. Actually not all friendship leads to courtship. Some friendship are good to remain at friendship level. Any attempt to move it higher may lead to disaster.
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